Day 21 – A picture can speak a thousand words

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For starters, I did not take this photo.  Instead, my son did and for a few years now, he has been exploring photography.  He enjoys experimenting with conceptual photography and I have taught him the basics behind photography and Photoshop.

Recently my son took this photo of himself and posted it on FaceBook and yes I am one of his friends and yes I knew about this photo before he even uploaded it to FB. He even asked me to help him edit it! Well a week after he posted this photo, he was called to the office and the school psychologist asked him several questions about this photo and if there are any issues in the home they should be aware of and then proceeded to tell him that he needed to remove this photo from FB immediately. So my problem is that 1) the school psychologist decided to question my son without my permission or knowledge of this meeting about a photo that was taken off school grounds and in my home. I wasn’t even made aware of this meeting until my daughter asked what my thoughts were about this meeting and I was like…”what meeting?”. See, I understand their logic/concerns, especially if one doesn’t understand expressive photography then this image might cause some concerns but what I don’t understand is why I wasn’t contacted and informed of their concerns before they started questioning my son? Maybe I could have given the school some insight about this image.  So that was my first issue, my 2nd was how can the school demand my son to remove an image off his FB page? A page that is set on private and an image that expresses his creativity.  I support my son 100% behind his creativity as long as he is not harming others or am I just being irrational and bias because this is my son and I understand his creativity?

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Day 18 – Freedom of Speech

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Freedom of speech…freedom of expression. Do we really have this right as Americans? Do we have the freedom to express ourselves as individuals or do people mistaken freedom of speech as the open opportunity to judge one another? What I don’t understand is when did most politician die and become God? Why is society in general so judgmental? Why do we put pressure on our children to be so perfect and dictate who they should or should not love? Really? At the very end, we all will have to face our Maker and until then, don’t look down on anyone because they are not living their lives according to your expectations!  What makes anyone better than the next person? What?? Because you have a few more degrees than the person standing next to you..who gives a rats ass!? Or because you are pro-life and anyone that doesn’t fall into your group of beliefs is not worthy..F you!  What?  Or maybe you were created to only use your left brain instead of your right and you lack the ability to live a creative life and then scorn ones work if you don’t approve or understand? What is this world coming to? A world of hate, lack of faith,  selfishness, self-indulging, instant gratification and close mindedness to expression!!

What one decides to do behind close doors that doesn’t involve affliction, death or destruction then should be our/their own damn business! Not the neighbors, parents, Senators, Pastor or schools!!!

Ok, let me get off my horse for right now. I could continue but I will stop here.

Day 17 – 10 Commandments to Parents

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1. My hands are small. Please don’t expect perfection whenever I make a bed, draw a picture or throw a ball. My legs are short. Please slow down so that I can keep up with you.

2. My eyes have not seen the world as yours have. Please let me explore safely. Don’t restrict me unnecessarily.

3. Housework will always be there. I’m only little for such a short time. Please take time to explain things to me about this wonderful world, and do so willingly.

4. My feelings are tender. Please be sensitive to my needs. Don’t nag me all day long. (You wouldn’t want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness.) Treat me as you would like to be treated.

5. I am a special gift from God. Please treasure me, holding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by and disciplining me in a loving manner.

6. I need your encouragement and your praise to grow. Please go easy on the criticism. Remember, you can criticize the things I do without criticizing me.

7. Please give me the freedom to make decisions concerning myself. Permit me to fail so that I can learn from my mistakes. Then someday, I’ll be prepared to make the kind of decisions life requires of me.

8. Please don’t do things over for me. Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts didn’t quite measure up to your expectations. I know it’s hard, but please don’t try to compare me with my brother or my sister.

9. Please don’t be afraid to leave for a weekend together. Kids need vacations from parents, just as parents need vacations from kids. Besides, it’s a great way to show us kids that your marriage is very special.

10. Please take me to worship regularly, setting a good example for me to follow.

by: Author Unknown, Source Unknown

I’ve held on to the piece of paper A Child’s 10 Commandments to Parents for over 14 years now and for years, I’ve always wanted this hung on my walls better yet tattoo’d all over my forearms! Really, I should have this mounted for a daily reminder to my little one.  My last little one is so precious yet my mind and day races by so quickly that I forget at times how young she really is compared to the rest of us in the household. These young innocent days will pass by quicker than I desire and I don’t want to wake up tomorrow wishing that I took more time and more patience to cherish these moments, these moments today that I can feel slipping through my hands quicker than sand.  Every day, I ask myself what can I do differently? How can I slow down my pace yet still provide for my family? How can I unwind at the end of my day without becoming stressed in the process.  Where do I begin? God, Faith, a book about God and Faith. How do I reprogram my mind to slow down?

 “Will one live for your own goals, comfort, and pleasure, or will one live the of your life for God’s glory, knowing that he has promised eternal rewards?

Day 11 – Out with the old

Out with the old, the past the non existing illusion.  2011 was an interesting year, many lessons learned, tears fallen, proud moments, disappointing moment, love, lost and falling in love. No regrets although I have learned that my tolerance is higher than I initially thought. Shame on me!

Wow has time flown by, I am still in denial that my oldest daughter is now 16 and is turning into a beautiful young woman who dreams to become a dancer.  This past year I have watched her twirl around and have seen her layer of confusion shed away right before my eyes.  She love art, music, dance and her personality shines like no other! Her focus this year wasn’t boys (THANK GOD!!), it was about her passions, school and discovering herself for the first time.  She will go through several phases of discovery but this one I was able to share with her; although she didn’t know I was watching :).  I’ll never forget those moment that we would sit outside together and blow bubbles while she told me how much she loves me and would squeeze me so tight. Time sure does pass by quickly, especially if one gets caught up in the moments of life and surviving.  At times now, she sits alone on the couch being entertained with her Facebook friends..my sweet one, I will patiently await for us to spend endless amount of time together without you feeling that I am a bother or too uncool…I love you and I am so proud of you for you who are today and who you will become tomorrow! You are so special to me and I hope that you focus on yourself, continue to find yourself and I hope you find the Lord in the process. He will guide you through all evil and He will not let you down.  Just have faith and don’t rush into anything…take your time my beautiful daughter.  Follow your heart…not lust or your friends, character will last forever and so will your relationship with God, friends will come and go and so will most men.  I pray that you find love and that he treats you like a queen and that you both respect one another and don’t every lose yourself in the process..be true to yourself and you will find happiness.  God, I beg that you are both honest, faithful and love each other.

My middle child, now 14 years old has turned into a young man over night. I still clearly remember those days that he would streak down the hall completely naked!! Not anymore…he’s the ladies man now and he’s the man of the house.  He is very respectful and has ambition to become a successful adult in life.  Today, he enjoys playing in the marching band, step and taking some interesting profile pics :).  His mind is creative and he has a sense of humor that is rare but entertaining. Every time I hear that song.. A Simple Man..this song reminds me of him.  I can not predict the future but I know my son will be kind, gentle and hopefully he wont live too fast.  I pray that he doesn’t spend half of his life searching for love and that when he does find that special woman that she will understand and appreciate him. Please don’t get lost in life and all the meaningless materialistic possessions …remember our lives are stories and they soon will end, please be ready my son. Don’t take this life for granted, we only have one shot.

My last gem…she’s now seven and full of life and love and has no fear.  She has a personality of 3 grown women and one pit-bull.  She is amazing and brings me back to reality so many times and if it wasn’t for her, I think that my life would be very lonely right now with two teenagers.  She loves me and tells me everyday and right before we fall asleep she always asks “will you hold me?”.  And yes these years will pass by quickly and I am trying to hold on to them but the clock is in control and all I can do is cherish those moments. She love buildabears, chocolate chip ice cream and Alvin. She loves to paint and make crafts and she adores Pinkalicious books!!

 I love you all and it was a good year and I know I made some mistake, especially with that jackass I was dating and I am sorry..from the bottom of my heart.  Sometimes I get caught up searching instead of just being content but my mistakes will never remove my love for each of you! I know that you all probably need so much more from me as a mother and my efforts may seem minimal but I have been trying to provide the correct foundation and believe me I know..i am not perfect but please always understand that I tried and wanted nothing but the best for you all from the moment your eyes opened in my arms on 1.30.95, 07.02.97 and 07.24.04.

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